Links to posts for Christian husbands.

In response to Winning her over without a word. Larry Kummer of Fabius Maximus asked:

This is great commentary. For those of us unfamiliar with these discussions among modern conservative Christians, have you written about how these men should act in marriage — realistically, given today’s circumstances? That is, when married to a modern American women.

I haven’t written much in the form of specific instructions for husbands, but I have written a fair amount about the mind frame a Christian husband should have.  The following posts come to mind:

• • Hostage negotiator for life? is a short introduction into the topic.
  • Headship Game. gives some more detail, with a focus on aligning the concept of Game with the biblical role of headship and providing a framework to consider when a given Game practice is consistent with biblical headship.
  • Radio Silence and Dread discusses the topic of dread game and the problems with the concept.  In short, the problem with dread game is not specifically dread, but (potentially) the mechanism used to create it.
  • Slow your roll is a response to readers who missed the point of Radio Silence and Dread, and also includes some suggestions for a specific blogger who was dealing with an especially rebellious Christian wife.
  • From Cane Caldo:  Tacomaster desires steadfast love.
  • Reframing Christian Marriage (with links to the rest of the series at the bottom).

Less directly related to the question but potentially helpful posts to help a Christian husband maintain frame are:

• Romance 101: How to stop frustrating your wife.
• He was like a little boy that night.  An example of what not to do.
• What is closeness? along with the follow up posts How much should a husband share with his wife? and Insensitive.

To understand the tools feminists are using to defeat headship:

• Threatpoint and the Christian embrace of the concept, the Wakeup call.
• You can dull the threatpoint to some degree if you understand the inherent problems for women who play this card.   Women’s morphing need for male investment and it’s predecessor post give an overview of this.
• I’ve written quite a few posts on the Duluth model, which you can find under the Duluth tag.  However, perhaps the best post on the topic to start with is:  Hierarchy equals abuse.
• A Tale of Two Beaches and the follow on post Rebuilding the mound.
• Frigidity and power.

I’m sure readers will share other resources in the comments, both from this blog and from other sources.