Feminism and women’s happiness.

I’m not the first to note that feminism tends to make women unhappy.  For example, many have pointed out that it makes women unhappy by suggesting they arrange their lives in ways less likely to make them happy. Stressing career over family, stressing the need to dominate their husbands, etc.

But feminism also has from its inception been about convincing women that they are terribly unhappy. This is a foundational step for any group wanting to introduce sweeping changes. People won’t accept let alone push for change if they are happy with the status quo.  Feminism wants to keep pushing social change, so they can’t afford to let up on their message to women that unless they are a fool they should be terribly unhappy.

But this blog is about solutions.  Women can be happy.  The patriarchy has merely tricked you into choosing the wrong options.  Therefore, all you have to do is make different choices.  You know, the ones where the deck isn’t stacked against you.  To achieve true happiness as a woman, all you have to do is avoid all of the following unhappy options the patriarchy wants to force you into:

Life’s work:

• If a full time mother being supported by a husband: Your life lacks the meaning and fulfillment your husband enjoys by having a career.  Raising kids is pointless drudgery imposed on women by the patriarchy.
• If a full time career woman: You are being deprived of the right to fulfill your all important maternal instinct.  The patriarchy has forced you to abandon your dreams of fulfillment via motherhood, and trapped you in a pointless, thankless job.
• If you have a career and children: You are being forced to do double work by the patriarchy.  You work the dreaded second shift.  Both jobs are pointless, thankless, drudgery.
• If your husband agrees to be a stay at home dad while you focus on the role of breadwinner: Your husband is sponging off of you, while enjoying the great rewards of caring for your children.  You are forced into thankless drudgery in a career.

Marital Status:

• If unmarried: Men have failed you in some way. They either failed you by being unworthy of marriage in your eyes, or they refuse to do their duty and marry you (fear of commitment!).  This is true even if you divorced one or more previous husbands.
• If married: You are trapped in by binding agreement, prevented from fulfilling your life’s desires.

Leadership role in the marriage:

• If the husband has it: He is a tyrant who dominates you and prevents you from being a full human being.  No act of violence or deception on your part is beyond the pale of acceptable responses to such an unbearable situation.
• If the wife has it (AKA shared leadership): He is a loser.  You feel like his mother.